1. Put yourself in timeout.
You can physically tell your children that you are in timeout. Timeout means all interactions stop until you say timeout is over. Why should you do this?
A timeout is a form of peaceful solitude. Solitude gives you the renewing power for your inner peace. It’s a time to regain your thoughts, feelings, and expectations, unwind from the stress of dealing with younger minds and a time for you to carefully plan your next move with your children.
Listen, I’m not telling you to isolate your children. What I’m saying is that you must take time to think before you do or say something to your children that may cause a lifelong trauma from their childhood.
So, to stay happy, you owe it to yourself and your children’s future to put yourself in timeout to think about what’s best for everyone.
2. Listen to good music.
Do you know the old saying “music soothes the savage beast.”
I truly believe in the power of music therapy. Research studies show that very violent people can be soothed into non-violent acts by simply listening to calm, soothing pieces of music.
Let music be the medicine you need to stay happy, healthy and inspired while satisfying your overall well-being.
3. Express yourself.
Do your children know why you put yourself in timeout?
Well… shouldn’t they?
You can’t expect people to read your mind… especially your children. Learn how to effectively express your feelings with feeling words.
Here’s an example: “When you roll your eyes and suck your teeth at me, just because I’ve asked you to do something, it really makes me mad & sad!”
Even though you’re the parent, you need to let them see and hear you as a human and give them the words that they can trust will be acceptable to you to express their own feelings.
Also, give your children the benefit of the doubt when sharing your feelings. They won’t think less of you. In fact, you’ll be surprised how much respect you can achieve with them, by allowing them to witness your vulnerable side.
Just don’t forget to follow-up the lesson with appropriate consequences for their unacceptable attitude and behavior.
Expressing yourself, while teaching your children how to express themselves, will keep you happy & well-respected as a caring parent.
4. Set limitations.
Children need limits. Adults do too.
Don’t expect children to always remember their limits or even know what their limits are unless you’ve taught it to them… repeatedly. Children need to practice their limits consistently in order to maintain peace in your home.
Bottom line: your children’s behavior, whether good or bad must be self-managed & controlled in order to maintain a happy home.
5. Read inspirational messages.
Inspirational messages are constant encouragement boosters.
Proverbs, old sayings, scriptures, poems or even lyrics to songs can relieve your stress and make you feel comforted & calm.
Do this daily and often.
You’ll be amazed at how much confidence and understanding you’ll gain for yourself and your children.
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