Here at the Fabulous household, we’ve entered the rationalizing phase of toddlerhood. It is awesome, really. I can do things like offer choices when The Girl demands one thing or starts acting out:
The Girl: I want a LOLLIPOP for breakfast!
The Mom: Okay, you can either have milk, or nothing. What do you want?
The Girl: I want MILK!
And she’s also starting to get the whole “time out” thing, which was not really working for us before. And, by “getting it” I mean, we try to give her time out and she jumps out of her seat the second we are out of sight.
But I think I’ve found the one thing that really concerns her – not being a good listener.
It seems that at daycare, if you are labeled as “not a good listener” it is like being ostracized from the class community. Much like being a leper, I suppose.
And if my toddler is acting out, well, then she is not being a good listener.
I learned this one day when we were talking about school.
The Mom: How was your day today?
The Girl: Ryan is not a GOOD LISTENER, Mommy!
The Mom: What? Really? Ryan? Not a good listener!??
The Girl: I a GOOD LISTENER, Mommy. I am!
Learning that not being a good listener was probably the epitome of a slander statement at school has really empowered me as a Mom. Because now when she’s acting out, or is, well, not listening to me, all I have to say is this sentence:
You’re not being a good listener right now.
And immediately she snaps out of her tantrum or drama-queen moves and starts to listen.
For about 5 minutes.